Monday, 18 April 2011
Like the Lama Guy
Some days I feel all wise and shit. Some days I don't. In the last few days, I've worked out some major 42 stuff and feel a need to share it. This is me sharing.
A few of my good friends are single. They are mid-20s+. They spend a lot of time thinking of whether the last person they dated is their next relationship. They spend a lot of time wondering if they should read this in to that and that in to this.
Lately, I have been reminding them that spending time thinking of these things is a waste of time.
Do you remember the days when we were late teens and early 20s? We lived life planning a future for ourselves and having fun. If we met a person that we fancied, we would think about stuff like if they had time between classes to have coffee or if we'd bump in to them in town on the weekends.
It was not a stressful ponder about if they were "the one"; if the wanted children; if they managed money well.
This is not important when you first meet someone. Focus on if you like them and if they are fun or share interests. Over-thinking the future is not that useful. It interferes with other important things like if the person is rude to the waiter or for some horrible reason wears white dress shoes.
Enjoy life. Like yourself. Don't go looking for too much, too fast. That just sucks the joy out of life.